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The Perfect Things To Do When You're An Introvert and Just Want Your Brain To Shut Up

The Perfect Things To Do When You're An Introvert and Just Want Your Brain To Shut Up

As an introvert, I live inside my head more than I live outside my head. My inner monologue is always going on and on. Most of the time, I need to do something to either shush this inner monologue or to keep it company. 

Over the years I've discovered a few activities that do just that. They help me calm my brain babble or they give me more to think about. Good things to think about. Because we introverts love to get lost in our inner world of thoughts and daydreams.

I'm sharing these in this post because these activities help you relax and recharge your mind after all that peopling or simply when you’re bored or just need to bring your mind to that quiet space again {without having to meditate}. 

6 Unusual But Perfect Introvert Things To Do Alone:

1. Visit a Museum

I visited two museums recently and I realized how great they are for introverts. Firstly, they're so quiiiieeeet. That in itself is such bliss. Displays in museums require your full attention. Reading about a place or a piece of art’s history gets your mind thinking about it- the civilization, the people, what their everyday life would be like, how our times are so different now, so on and so forth. It’s such a great experience to have alone. You can completely immerse yourself in it. Better still- get the audio guide and you’ll be in quiet, introspective introvert heaven. I visited the Vatican museums by myself. I had an audio guide and I took my own sweet time in all 33 museums. 

2. Colour in a colouring book

I have a few adult colouring books gifted to me and I love them. Colouring in a colouring book is very soothing because it forces your brain to focus on the job at hand. You get lost in deciding what colour goes where, whether you want to stick to a colour theme or just use all the colours in your box, and to make sure you stay inside the lines so everything looks pretty. Or don’t, if that’s what you like. 

3. Bake something

    Baking is tricky. If one ingredient is too much or too less, it’s going to ruin your entire dish. That’s why I love baking as an introverted activity. You have to follow the recipe closely, measure everything precisely, and you’re rewarded with a fluffy cake or yummy cookies. It’s such a great activity to do by yourself. Bonus points if you get to eat the reward of your hard work all by yourself.

    4. Pinterest-ing

    Pinterest is one of my favourite social media platforms to lose myself in. It’s like a maze in which you want to be lost for ages. You can find an image you like, then find more like those. I especially like reading anecdotes about strong women, and short stories by unknown authors, written on Reddit and Tumblr. These stories are saved as images so you can read them fast and move on to the next one. Or of course, another favourite of mine is cat jokes and videos. If you love cats {or any animal}, this is the platform for an endless plethora of funny gifs, memes and funny animal videos. 

    5. Gardening/ looking after houseplants 

    Gardening or simply watering and looking after your houseplants is such a relaxing exercise for an overthinking mind. You have to focus on the plants, check how well they're doing, water each one according to the plant type, clean the leaves, spray all the leaves with water. Another reason why this is such a relaxing activity is because you get to see all the budding flowers and new leaves. Which is such a rewarding and pleasant sight. It's bound to cheer you up. 

    6. Organize anything 

    I think one of the reasons I'm such an organizing freak is because of how the act of organizing anything takes up every inch of my brain. {Every once in a while I'll reorganize my accessories, my makeup, my work desk and so on}. You can't think about anything else while organizing. Where everything will go, what type of storage to use, how to group things together. So many delicious decisions to make. So when you're bored or need to bring that zen back, organize or re-organize something. Just break it up into small bits or one chest of drawers or cupboard so you don't overwhelm yourself. Later on, you'll thank yourself as you use and enjoy the new way you've organized your things.

    These are 6 activities that I as an introvert really enjoy doing. They help relax a chaotic mind and stop all the mind chatter that goes on inside a typical introvert's head. You don't need people to do it with, so they make the perfect go-to for when you're all peopled out and need to recharge. 

    On A Style Note

    I purchased this skirt from AliExpress. I fell in love with the gorgeous watercolour floral print. Unfortunately, it was a size too small. But because I was {am} so in love with the print, I didn't want to donate it. So I asked my friend Sajida of Saji's Couture about what can be done with it. She took the skirt and added grey panels on the side, making the skirt a perfect fit. I still didn't like the length, so I added a matching white lace from my mother's lace shop, Lace Love, at the bottom to make the skirt longer. And voila! I have a beautiful, customized pencil skirt.

    It's always great to have a tailor or designer who can alter or customize your clothes. Or if you know how to sew and can do that yourself. That way even when your body goes up or down in size, you don't need to donate your favourite pieces.

    Top: Saji's Couture, Skirt: AliExpress, altered by SC, lace by Lace Love, Bag: from India, Heels: Steve Madden. Photos: Ancita Sherel.

    The top is by Saji's Couture. The great thing about black is that you can pair it with anything. But I usually don't like completely black clothes. Which is why I love the pearl detail on the neckline and sleeves of the top which reduces the blackness and sets the top apart. And pearls are always a classy touch.

    Black sandals and a blue bag complete this feminine but professional look.

    What are some of your favourite things to do by yourself that help you calm the brain babble? Leave me a comment below! 

    Until next time, 
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    Shabana Feroze
    Where To Shop and What to Get From Thailand

    Where To Shop and What to Get From Thailand

    I’ve visited Thailand before, 5 years ago. At that time I had gone to Bangkok, Pattaya and Samui. I hadn’t had enough of Samui, so I decided to go back this year. This year I just wanted a beach vacation where I could relax. 

    All I did on this holiday was eat amazing Thai food, read and relax on the beach, and shop. 


    The last time I went, I was in Samui for 3 or 4 days. The mistake I made was to book a sightseeing tour of Samui. I really didn’t have fun on the tour as you’re bound to the tour group and their timings, and the sights they take you to. It’s best to visit the places you want to see, in your own time and convenience.

    Since this time I wanted to just relax on the beach, I chose a beautiful resort on Chaweng Beach. Chaweng is one of the most lively and happening areas in Samui. It has the most restaurants, markets and massage parlours, and Samui’s biggest mall, Central Festival. Staying in this area made sense because I had lots of places to pick from to eat, and the mall in walking distance.

    Central Festival
    Chaweng Lake is in walking distance to this area. It’s a big, serene lake with a walking path flanked with lots of greenery. There are benches everywhere so you can sit and take it all in. The weather was rainy, which added to the romance of it all. Cloudy skies made the entire experience even better.

    The Hotel

    The only thing is, the Chaweng Road area is extremely noisy as it’s a very commercial area. You need to choose a resort that’s quiet inside. That’s the second consideration, The first consideration for me, of course, is that the resort needs to have direct beach access. So I can just walk from my room to the beach.

    Chaweng Regent ticked both these boxes. It was not just really quiet without any noise from the bustling street outside, but it was a green jungle paradise. It had trees and greenery everywhere inside. And the rooms have a garden view. So on the days when it was raining, I could just sit on my patio and read, surrounded by lush greenery.

    The resort also has excellent beach access. The last resort I stayed at, Chaweng Garden, was still away from the beach. At Chaweng Regent, the property is directly on the beach. The sun loungers are situated very close to the water. And the resort’s swimming pool is right there as well. You could be in the pool with a beach view. The showers and toilets are right there, and the resort’s restaurant is right next to you as well, which means you can order food and drink and have it on your sun lounger. Bliss!


    The Jellyfish Incident

    My only gripe is that there aren’t enough warning signs on the beach that say there are deadly box jellyfish in the water and that everyone needs to wear a full bodysuit when swimming. Heck, the hotel management didn’t know that. Until I got stung by a deadly box jellyfish and told them. 

    Long story short, I got stung on my thigh by a box jellyfish when I was in the water {close to the shore}, I was in intense pain. I went to the hospital and the Maritime Doctor {who was such a knowledgeable lady}, did a whole lot of tests on me to make sure the venom hadn’t spread to my cells and my blood. All the test results were healthy. Perks of being a fitness instructor and having a strong immune system. But yes, I could have died if the venom went to my heart. I’ll probably have the scars for life. 

    I went back to the hotel and informed the hotel manager about this and as per the doctor’s advice, everyone should wear a full bodysuit when going into the water. He didn’t even know this. Or that there are deadly box jellyfish in the water. I really hope they put a sign at the beach saying this. 

    P.S: Make sure you have travel insurance when you go on vacation. The hospital bill was huge but I got reimbursed by my travel insurance within a week of submitting my papers. {I use AXA Insurance.}

    Shopping in Samui

    Samui is famous for its night markets. You can get some great local stuff in these bazaars. I visited the Fisherman’s Village Night Market at Bophut. It was a huge, sprawling affair with thousands of stalls, selling everything from souvenirs to street food to accessories. There was live music and entertainment everywhere, adding to the festive vibe. 

    Mini fridge magnets of Thai food
    However, what’s sold here isn’t necessarily cheaper than outside. In fact, some things are more expensive because night markets get such a huge turnout from both tourists and locals alike. So you have to know what to buy from these markets. Here’s what I recommend-

    Herbal Tea 
    If you’re an herbal tea lover, don’t miss this. I love loose tea and I’m never able to find some of the stuff I want. I found lavender, jasmine flowers, jasmine pearls and butterfly pea flower. They have a huge variety of loose tea, and each packet is reasonably priced at 150 Thai Baht. I’m very glad I bought the tea from the first stall I found them at because I didn’t find the same kind of tea at any other stalls. You’ll find a lot of places selling green tea with jasmine, and other flavours, even at the airport, but not just the herbs and flowers. 

    Thai Spices
    My mother wanted Thai spices like kaffir lime, galanga and lemongrass. I found a stall selling all of these, packed in neat little packets, and again, ranging from 100 to 150 THB. They even had very small packs of 5 common Thai spices bundle packed together like saffron, lemongrass, kaffir lime, etc. 

    Handmade Jewellery
    You’ll find many stalls selling bracelets and anklets. I found one that had colourful beaded jewellery, handwoven with coir. These weren’t cheap, but worth it because they’re so unique. I purchased 3 pairs of earrings {I’m wearing a pair in this post} and a beautiful big beaded necklace.

    Dehydrated fruit
    There are a lot of stalls selling dehydrated fruit in small, sealed packs, for 100 to 150 THB. The best part is you can sample it before buying. I got a few packets of dried ginger and pineapple. Don’t go crazy though. I find that when you’re on holiday, you feel like buying lots of local foods to take back home. But you don’t really eat it when once you’re back. 

    Also, the packed product may not be like the sample you tasted. I’ve had a bad experience buying tea from Bali where the sample and the packed teas were completely different. So don’t go buying several packs of the same foods. I like to get just one or two of what I like. If it’s really nice, it’s more motivation for you to visit again. :)

    Other than the local goodies from the night markets, I bought clothes from Uniqlo in Samui. There’s no way I’m going to South East Asia and not going to a Uniqlo. Their clothes are of great quality for a good price. I especially love their innerwear and basics. 

    Shopping in Bangkok

    Shopping in Bangkok can really empty out your pockets. If it’s local stuff you want, I recommend Platinum Mall in Pratunam. Touting itself as Thailand’s largest fashion mall, it’s packed with over 2000 shops across 6 floors. There’s a LOT of women’s fashion and accessories. You really don’t want to get overwhelmed here or return home with too much stuff. It’s best to know what you really want, then go and get that. 

    Here’s what I got, and what I recommend:

    Silver Jewellery and Men’s Bracelets
    You’re really spoiled for choice here when it comes to accessories. The jewellery shops compete with each other with bizarre and unique displays. I picked up a few pieces of silver-plated jewellery which were unique and not too expensive. They also have fun accessories made out of raffia, bamboo and other natural materials. It’s also a great place to get leather bracelets for the men in your life.

    There are a few shops that don’t sell fake brand sunglasses. Look for the ones made in Thailand, with UV protection. You’ll find a huge range of designs and shapes. I loved the shop called Black Gold on level 5. 

    Makeup and Skincare
    You can’t go to Thailand and not buy Thai skincare products! I got lots of sheet masks, body scrubs, and aloe creams. Also, high street brands like Maybelline and L’Oreal are priced properly here {they’re very expensive in Bahrain} and also have discounts on them. I picked up a few lippies and my favourite mascaras for super cheap.

    Contact Lens
    I’m just starting to explore the coloured contact lens trend, and I was so happy to find a brand called Duna in Thailand, that sold these for horribly cheap. Each monthly pair is priced at around 200 THB, and they have a variety of colours. They come with power too. I’ve been wearing them since I got them and I can vouch for them being comfortable and safe. Also, the lens solution is super cheap here as compared to Bahrain. For a constant lens wearer like me, that’s great. I wanted to buy a dozen!

    That’s all the stuff I got from Thailand this time round. Maybe it seems like a lot because I’ve listed it out by category, but it wasn’t really. A few accessories, tea, dehydrated fruit, contact lenses, sunglasses, lippies, mascaras and some t-shirts and sweaters from Uniqlo. I definitely didn’t go overboard or regret getting anything, which is what you should aim for. 

    Before I went to Thailand, I went to a Thai supermarket in Bahrain and had a look at what they sold. Most of the branded food items you get in Thailand were available. Which is why I didn’t bring any of those and stuck to the fresher local foodstuffs like tea, fruit and herbs.

    If you really want to go to Thailand for shopping, I suggest you go around late November and December, when the new year sales have hit. Everything is on sale and at amazing prices. But obviously, it’s very crowded as well.

    I hope this post has been helpful and you know exactly what Thai goodies you want to get when you travel to Thailand! 

    Until next time

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    Shabana Feroze
    9 Things You Can Do To Become A Better Friend

    9 Things You Can Do To Become A Better Friend

    A good support system is so important. Being surrounded by the right people makes life so much easier. If you have a few friends you can rely on when things get rough or share happy news and who increase your happiness by getting even more excited than you, you’ve made it. 

    And maybe you have a great set of friends, you all get along, and you’re there for each other. But from time-to-time, you do stupid things that jeopardize your friendship. I know I have. I’m not referring to the basic stuff that makes a friendship what it is- being there for each other, supporting each other, being there for them when they’re down. 

    There are a few subtle things that we don’t really think of, but they can really ruin a friendship. 
    There are other subtle nuances that are so important when it comes to keeping your relationship with your closest friends strong. There’s nothing as heartbreaking as a broken friendship, not even a broken relationship. Which is why I want to share these tips from my experience.

    Here are a few things you can do to be a great friend:

    True friends don’t get jealous of their friends’ achievements. If your best friend gets engaged, gets a raise or is going on an amazing holiday, don’t be envious. Be happy for them. If you’re the type of friend that gets envious, your friend will know. After a point, they’ll stop sharing their good news with you and that’s not a good sign for a good friendship. If you can’t stop feeling envious, ask yourself how you can become more secure in yourself. Know that you can get every happiness for yourself, too.

    Don’t gossip about your friends to other friends. By gossiping, I mean talking about your friends in a bad way. Being judgmental about what a friend is going through and then picking that apart with other friends is not a nice thing to do. If you think what a friend is doing is not right, keep it to yourself. Your friends’ lives should not be content for negative conversation.

    If you’re mad at them, let them be the first to know. Don’t tell another friend that you’re mad at a friend. First, clear it out with the friend you’re angry with. Otherwise, you’re ruining the reputation of one friend with the other, and then once everything is okay between you and your friend, you have to then tell the other friend that everything is now okay between you and that friend. It’s too much work! 

    Don’t share your friends’ secrets. This should be an obvious one but sometimes we get tempted to tell a friend something another friend has told us strictly in confidence. It’s not even about your friends clearly specifying that what they are telling you is confidential. You need to develop the discretion as to what can be shared and what can’t be shared. Ask yourself- if the news were about you, would you want a friend saying it to others?

    Know when to listen and offer support and know when to help. Sometimes we just want a friend to hear us out. Just that helps us feel better. We don’t necessarily want advice. So when a friend is telling you about a problem, you can ask them something like- is this a problem where you need my advice or where you just need me to listen?

    Don’t be an askhole. An askhole is a person who asks you for your suggestion then disregards it completely. If you’re not going to follow their suggestion, don’t ask. It makes your friend feel disrespected and unimportant, not to mention making you look completely foolish. If you really have a problem that needs solving, ask one or two friends that you know can help you with that particular problem. Don’t be that friend who asks every single friend about a problem then goes and does the opposite of what everyone said.

    Don’t dump on your friends. One of my best friends, Amy, had told me this and I loved it. She said that when she’s had a bad day she likes to go and watch a movie alone in the cinema because it helps her forget her problems. She said she doesn’t call a friend and ‘dump’ her bad day on them and bring them down. And I thought that that was so wise. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t tell your friends about sad news or when you’re having a tough time. I’m saying don’t do it too often and for small things. Be mature and independent enough to handle your situations yourself and only when you really need support or help, talk to your friend. Depending completely on your friend when any little thing goes wrong is unhealthy for you as a person and for your friendship. No matter how kind your friends are, they’ll eventually get tired of you not being able to self-soothe.

    Be honest, but not brutal. Don’t be that friend who sugarcoats everything and never tells their friend the truth about their job or their relationship or about food stuck in their teeth. Telling the truth may make you lose friends, but they’re not the type of friends you want anyway. P.S- tell the truth nicely. No need to be brutal about it. If you have a friend who is constantly being brutally honest and throwing what you do wrong in your face, reconsider the friendship. Friends are nice to each other. 

    Don’t be a chronic complainer. I’ve had a lot of {ex} friends who loved complaining about their life and everything in it. Even if I pointed out an obvious solution to their problem, they wouldn’t take it. {Similar to being an askhole}. It was obvious that they loved their miserable lives and loved to complain. Being in the company of such friends is exhausting. If you’re a chronic complainer, reduce your whining and try to be more grateful. If you have friends like these, either explain to them that this is frustrating for you as a friend, or gradually cut them off and find better friends who are more positive and take action to solve their problems.

    Remember that the best way of finding good friends is by being one. Following these rules has definitely worked for me and I’m blessed with amazing friends. Being honest, perceptive and compassionate in your friendships will make them stronger. By following the tips above, you’ll start to become a better person and a better friend.

    Dress: c/o Khaleeji Girl Kouture, Earrings: from Thailand, Bracelet: Gifted, Watch, Bag: Parfois, Shoes: Aldo. Location courtesy: Madeleine. Photos: Ancita SherelOn a style note, this gorgeous dress is from Khaleeji Girl Kouture. I love that it's a wrap dress, which is so flattering. Unlike other wrap dresses, the neck is not too deep. Because of the wrap, the hemline is slightly longer in the front which adds more interest to the dress. The colour is a beautiful neutral taupe, making it the perfect work dress. I love that the sleeves stop before the wrist, adding that effortless element to it. Because this is a wrap dress, I always make sure I'm wearing shorts underneath it. You can also wear a lacy corset or bralette under in case the neck starts to gape when you're sitting. Lace sneak peeks are so elegant, especially when it's on the neckline. Wrap dresses usually become loose {since they're tied} so you have to be extra careful when wearing them and wear pretty inners. Because the dress is a simple neutral, I wore bright earrings with it. I got these handmade earrings at the Fisherman's Village Night Market in Bophut, Koh Samui, in Thailand. I love the fresh sea colours. I wore pumps in a gold and black jacquard fabric to add more elegance and length to the look and finished with a big bag in a deep navy blue for a pop of colour.This is such a go-to work dress. When you don't know what to wear or are in a hurry, this is the dress. I can't wait to wear it again with different shoes and accessories. I've already purchased a few different lace corsets to go with it. Until next time, xoxo

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    Shabana Feroze
    10 things To Do When You're Overwhelmed

    10 things To Do When You're Overwhelmed

    The car breaks down. The baby’s soiled their diapers. And you were already stressed because the boss yelled at you that morning. 

    Often times a lot of things happen all at once, leaving you feeling overwhelmed. You feel like a thousand-kilo rock is crushing you. You want to scream and shout but you know that that’s not really going to help. 

    That overwhelming feeling can be because of anything. Maybe you realize you need to get a lot of things done and you don’t have enough time. Or several things go wrong all at once. And often, even after you’ve fixed a few things, you can’t shake off the feeling and the sense of urgency. 

    This last month of October has been the most overwhelming month of my life. Several major things happened all at once and I didn’t know what to handle first or how to simply slow down my thoughts so I could think logically. I just felt pressured and drained from feeling pressured. 

    I knew I had to stop feeling like that as soon as possible and go back to being my normal calm and composed self. Which is why I decided to write this post and share a few ways that help me stop feeling overwhelmed really fast, plus a few more that I think are great ways to calm the whirlpool in your mind.

    Here are ten things you can do to stop feeling overwhelmed:

    1. Visit a water body. Any naturally occurring body of water such as a waterfall, a lake, the ocean, etc., makes you feel instantly calmer when you’re near it. This is because of the negative ions in the air near water that makes us feel calmer and happier. If you really can’t go to the beach or a promenade, find a pool to take a dip in, sit by one, or simply take a shower. I find that even this contact with water soothes you and reduces that overwhelm.

    Give yourself a head massage. Massages are amazing and they make you instantly relaxed. However, when you’re feeling chaotic, you might not feel like going to a spa and getting a full body massage or even have the time for it. What you can do, is to give yourself a head massage. Heat up any oil like coconut oil or olive oil {or make your own hair oil following my mother’s secret hair oil recipe} for a few seconds in the microwave and then massage it into your scalp. If there’s a family member around, ask them to do it. Leave it on for at least 30 minutes and then shower.

    Find the funniest friends and be with them. Everyone has that one friend or a bunch of friends who are silly and funny. They’re so funny that just thinking of them makes you smile. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, seek their company and hang out with them even if for an hour or two. Just being with them will make that crushing sensation go away.

    Have a good weep. I love a good cry. It cleanses out all the toxins in your system and makes you feel relieved. Don’t be ashamed to have a good ol’ ugly cry alone in your room when you’re feeling pressured. You’ll be able to think clearer after it.

    Talk it out. Talking to a friend or a loved one can make the craziness in your head go away. Sometimes all it takes is verbalizing what’s driving you insane. Simply talking to someone makes you see your problems for what they are, and automatically reduces your stress. 

    Write it down. An alternative to talking to someone is to write everything down. Do a brain dump. Just put pen to paper and let the words flow. They don’t have to make sense. Writing is always therapeutic and helps get you things off of your chest, making you feel more relaxed.

    Take a nap. When you’re overwhelmed, the body feels exhausted. It’s the best time to give the body and mind some rest by taking a nap.

    Meditate. Meditation helps slow down your breathing and brain waves. It can alleviate that crushing sensation we feel when we have too much on our mind by forcing us to be more present.

    Do an intense workout. This is my favourite remedies for feeling overwhelmed. An intense workout like HIIT makes you feel really tired after and your brain just cannot think about problems anymore. It also lifts that brain fog you get when you’re overwhelmed because you’re so exhausted you can only think of the simplest solutions or what to do next.

    Decide that tomorrow will be a better day. I find that telling myself that things will be better tomorrow helps to take the stress away from the moment. And the next day IS always inevitably better.

    These are just a few things you can do when you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders or when everything is happening all at once. Here are 35 more self-care ideas you can do when you need to slow everything down and do something nice for yourself.

    What do you usually like doing when you’re overwhelmed? Leave me a comment below!

    On a style note

    This is one of my favourite dresses designed by Saji’s Couture. I had purchased the lace material from a textile shop in Manama Souk. I was in love with it but I was confused as to how I’d be making a dress out of it. Sajida of Saji’s Couture told me she’d make a cape out of it, and a simple black pencil dress over which I can wear it. That way I could wear these two together and also use both pieces with other clothes. I loved it! 

    I wore this dress to accept a business award and I got several compliments on it. I love how Sajida can think of a dress design really quickly and knows exactly what she will do with your material. 

    Dress: Saji's Couture, Jewellery: Gifted, Watch: Olivia Burton, Shoes: New Look. Location courtesy: The Woods Cafe. Photos: Ancita Sherel

    Until next time

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    Shabana Feroze
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