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Hi! I'm Shabana. I live in Bahrain. I'm a businesswoman by day and a fitness instructor by night. I believe that dressing up is the easiest way of loving yourself, and this blog is where I journal my outfits and my life. If you'd like to know more, click on the About Me tab on top. I hope you enjoy my blog!
                            
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That Sexy Smile

That Sexy Smile



I've recently had to get a lot of dental work done. I've completed two root canals {sounds painful but trust me, with the right dentist it's not} and now my dentist is almost finished with some work on my front teeth. This work directly affects my smile. Throughout this entire process, I have realized the importance of not just healthy teeth, but a good-looking smile.

Having a great smile, one that you are proud to show off, is so important to feeling great about yourself. I have seen way too many women cover their mouths while smiling or laughing because they're insecure about how their teeth look when they smile.

A genuinely happy smile doesn't just show how comfortable you are with yourself, but it's also one of the biggest giveaways of your personality. Someone with a big and vibrant smile looks happy with themselves and their life, and you feel like you can talk to them. But someone who almost never smiles or doesn't show their teeth while smiling seems like they're fake and/ or hiding something, right?

You may think it's silly to make pre-judged assumptions based on a smile, but studies show that we make a decision about someone within two minutes of meeting them. Imagine if you gave off the wrong impression simply because of how you smiled.


With all that in mind, I decided to write a post with a few tips on how you can achieve that perfect smile. Read on below:



Clean your teeth


An obvious one, but one that needs to be a part of this list. Teeth need regular maintenance just like any other part of your body. Regularly cleaning your teeth with a fluoride toothpaste allows you to protect your teeth from things like gum disease and tooth decay. The food we eat has ingredients such as sugar or acid that can erode our teeth if we don’t keep them clean. Not to mention the bad breath that'll ensure you have no love life.


Flossing


Sometimes cleaning your teeth isn’t enough. Your toothbrush can do its best but food gets into nooks and gaps in your teeth. If they aren't removed they can rot your teeth. Flossing is a great way to make sure every bit of food is removed from your teeth. Plus, it gives a really clean feeling to your mouth. I like to carry dental floss in my handbag. You can floss after every meal. Although once a day is enough. 

Professional scaling/ polishing

You can get your teeth professionally deep cleaned by a dental hygienist. My dentist recommended I get this done once every year. Scaling and polishing by a dental hygienist can be a really simple solution to your teeth looking yellow or unclean because of plaque build-up. It makes your smile look so much better after and your teeth feel super clean. 


Cosmetic enhancements


As I mentioned before, you might be holding your smile back because you're conscious of how your teeth look. You're not alone. A lot of people feel the same about their teeth. Thankfully, with all the dental advancements today, you can visit your local dentist who can suggest various options that you can consider for making your teeth look as beautiful as you want them to. This might be straightening and realigning or an option like veneers. You'll be able to discuss what you don’t like and the dentist will be best placed to tell you what they can do. 


Teeth whitening


If it isn’t the shape or alignment of your teeth that's making you feel insecure but the colour of your teeth, then why not consider teeth whitening? Whiter teeth will give you a better sense of confidence once the treatment is done. Cosmetic dentists can get rid of any stains on your teeth that may have been caused by drinking tea and coffee or other drinks. Teeth whitening is something that can be done easily. You can even consider buying special toothpaste or a teeth whitening kit if you don’t fancy heading to a dentist. 


Regular trips to the dentist


Again, an obvious one, but it's something we forget so easily. It' definitely the cause of me having to get a lot of work done all at once. Keeping a regular appointment schedule with your dentist is so important for good dental health. Putting a reminder in my Google Calendar helps me not forget to book regular appointments. Do whatever works for you, but don't forget to go get those regular check-ups. It could be the difference between doing a simple filling or having to get a lengthy root canal procedure done.

I hope these tips helped and that you're motivated to make sure your smile looks as sexy as you want it to. ;)


Until next time,

xoxo
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The Next Step After I Stopped Complaining

The Next Step After I Stopped Complaining




In this post, I had spoken about how I’m not complaining anymore and how it has affected me and my life. A lot of you liked that post and told me you’ll give it a try as well, which is great! If you’ve done it and are wondering what to do next, here it is. 

After making a habit of not complaining, make a habit of being more grateful. One of the results of not complaining, in any case, is that you automatically feel more gratitude for everything. This happens because you're not seeing your life through the negative lens of complaining. 


If you increase feeling grateful even more, it makes your life so much more beautiful. It makes you feel this absurd sense of happiness all the time. The same way you make a habit of not complaining, you have to make a habit of feeling grateful. Here's how: 

  • You can maintain a gratitude journal. Every night before you sleep, write down 5 things you're grateful about that day. These things can be minute or massive, it doesn't matter. You can even be grateful about yourself and how you handled a situation that day. Don't overthink it. Just put it down. 
  • You can maintain a gratitude note in your phone and write down what you're grateful for as you go about your day. 
  • Or you can simply count your gratitude list in your head. You can do this in the middle of the day or before you sleep, or both. 


I do a mix of everything. I have a journal where I write down what I was grateful for that day before I sleep. When I'm too tired to write, I make a mental note of what I feel thankful about, in my head. 

The entire point is for you to remind yourself what you are grateful for so that you constantly recognize the amazing things in your life. After a while, it becomes a way of thinking. So much that even when you're really irritated or in a shitty mood, your next thought is what you are thankful for. That changes your mood or at the very least reduces your negative thoughts. 


Remember, you will find it very hard to be grateful if you complain all the time. When you complain you focus on all the bad things in your life. And if you focus on all the bad things, you can’t be grateful for the good things. So make sure you stop or reduce complaining and then start the habit of feeling gratitude. 


To set you off here's a very small list of what I'm grateful for right now:

  • Amazing friends and colleagues who know me so well that they gifted me this stunning gown from my favourite couturier, Saji's Couture on my birthday.

  • Beautiful places in Bahrain like the one in this shoot and having a blog that makes me discover such places for shoots.

  • Positive feedback on my blog posts.
  • Technology that helps me write from anywhere. I'm writing this on my phone while waiting in a beauty salon.

  • The opportunity to teach fitness classes in different gyms to wonderful participants who give their all in the class.


Those are just a few things I'm grateful for while writing this post, to give you an idea of what you can put in your list. Once you start writing or listing them in your head, you'll find you have so many!






Gown: Saji's Couture, Ring: Era, Clutch: from India, Earrings: Parfois, Shoes: New Look.

So make that gratitude list, however, whenever. Carry a journal around with you, write it in your phone, do it while meditating, go through it in your head. Whatever works for you. Do it until it becomes a habit and it brings you that absurd happiness. 

Until next time,

xoxo
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The One Reason You Need to Be Fit

The One Reason You Need to Be Fit



We all know the advantages of being fit. Looking good, feeling stronger... There are so many. For the sake of this post, I'm going to break them down into physical, tangible benefits, and intangible ones. 

The physical benefits include a healthy heart, more stamina, faster metabolism, stronger muscles, denser bones, better digestion, and more. 

Intangible benefits are being able to wear the clothes you want, eat what you want because you know your metabolism will burn it fast {or you'll burn it in your next exercise session}, a sense of achievement, more energy, better sleep.


The biggest benefit, of course, is looking good naked. I'm not referring to a stereotypical beauty standard or shape, but whatever YOU think is the level of fitness that makes you feel sexy and attractive. 

For me, "fit" is a certain fat to muscle ratio, but for you, it could be more fat, lesser muscle. Or it could be being super-ripped. Whatever works for you where you feel healthy and look good to yourself.


These reasons listed above are the most common ones why people want to be fit. As a fitness instructor and someone who has been fit since a young age, none of these is the number one reason why I work my butt off to try and stay fit all the time. 

The main reason for me is- peace of mind

Yes, you read that right. I like to stay fit for peace of mind. 

Life is so unpredictable. It'll surprise you with all kinds of problems and challenges. It's a huge relief to know that my health and fitness are not a part of the problem. 




When I'm worried about challenges in my business or relationships or any other area of life, I find myself thinking, "At least I look good", or "At least I'm not worried about my health". Let me clarify here that this is not about vanity. It's about feeling empowered and confident because you've taken control of your biggest asset- your body. 


When you look good naked {again, this is YOUR standard}, it's astonishing how relaxed and stress-free you become. It takes a huge burden off your shoulders. One that you didn't even know was there. 

On top of all the little problems life throws at you, you don't want the flab on your belly or those extra pounds to be one of them. Trust me, I've been there and it's very, very annoying. To worry about how your body looks when there are a thousand other challenges that need your attention. 



So do whatever it takes to reach your fitness goal, and organize your lifestyle to maintain it once you're there. When I say whatever it takes, I'm not condoning shortcuts like extreme dieting/ body disorders/ starving yourself or anything else unhealthy like that. I mean to organize your time and schedule to reach your fitness goal and make it a habit.

Eat more veggies. Do HIIT. Lift weights. Do yoga. Work standing up. Do push-ups on your office floor. Reduce bread, rice and sugar. Whatever it takes. 



NB: The journey to your desired weight might be long, but patience and consistency will get you there. I promise. 


To summarize, if you reach your fitness level and maintain it, it takes so many worries off your mind. And when the going gets tough, you can always console yourself with the fact that, hey, at least I look hot AF.

Read all my posts on health and fitness by clicking the tab named "Health & Fitness" on the blog header, or click HERE.

I have written an entire chapter on health and fitness in my book, Loving Yourself In Style. In it, I talk about body image, food, exercise, and my battle with anorexia. The book is available on Amazon, Kobo and iBooks. Click HERE for all the links. If you'd like a signed copy, please get in touch with me on any of my social media platforms shown on the right.  

P.S: it'll go on summer sale soon! 

Until next time,

xoxo
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A Queen Dress in Gunmetal Gray

A Queen Dress in Gunmetal Gray





This dress is an absolute love of mine. I explained in this post about my style journey and my intention to dress more like a Managing Director and a girl boss and because of that intention I've been changing up my style. And this dress fits perfectly with the image I want to portray. 


Dress; Saji's Couture, Earrings: from India, Sunglasses, Bag: Aldo, Ring: Malabar Gold & Diamonds, Watch: Parfois, Shoes: New Look

The first thing that made me thirst for this dress is the colour. It has been a long time since I've had a dress in gunmetal gray, a shade I adore because of its elegance and minimalism. It's a beautiful neutral that doesn't look boring or blah because of the richness of the hue. 


The material makes the colour stand out even more. It's a satin crepe which is very soft and pliable and has a subtle shine. Because of this, the gray looks like it has more than one shade. I adore satin for professional outfits. It has an elegance of its own. The movement and fall of the material add so much grace to any outfit. Although I must admit, I have never had a dress in satin before. I've got a lot of blouses that look super elegant in satin and silk, but not dresses. This entire dress made from the material makes it look very polished and luxurious. And of course, it flows like water when you walk, as seen from the photo below.


I LOVE the length of the dress! I wouldn't think that such a length would look flattering, but to my pleasant surprise, it does! It makes the entire dress look more serious and substantial. On that note, when my friend Sajida of Saji's Couture gave me this dress to try, it was a full-length gown. It looked fabulous even like that and I was head over heels for it but she was very clever and told me she'll make the dress shorter so I can wear it to the office. She showed me how short she'd make it and I thought that was genius. So now instead of having a gown that I would wear only on occasions, I have a dress that I can wear much more frequently.


I love the detailing of the dress. The halter neck cut with the black pearl buttons lining the seam is very creative and unique, and the use of black pearl buttons adds so much more sophistication. It's such a 'queen' dress. 


The pearls have been used on the sleeves as well as on the cuff. I could write a sonnet on these sleeves. They're exactly how I like my bishop sleeves- very wide and gathered into a stiff and wide cuff. When done with a flowy and soft material, it has a really beautiful effect of ballooning out near the cuff and flowing with your movement, making you look all delicate and graceful and fairy-like.


The dress has a high waist and a wide belt that defines and cinches the waist. The belt adds structure to the dress and defines the A-line of the skirt more. I also love how the top half of the dress is loose so a belt at the waist makes that poofiness stand out. Anywhere where a dress or a t-shirt or a blouse sits slightly looser on the body, it looks effortless. With such a soft material, it's important to have stiff structural elements like the belt and cuffs in this dress, or it would look too loose and boring. And of course, really good tailoring makes it sit well on the body. That's the best part about getting bespoke clothes.


It zips up at the back and is super easy to wear. I must admit here that satin and silk are NOT summer-friendly materials but they look impeccably sophisticated and feel luxuriously decadent against the skin. So it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make. You just have to make sure not to wear satin when you know you're going to be driving around or have to be outside more. 


Since the dress is in a deep, neutral gray, I chose a bag and heels in pastel shades of soft blues, pinks, and lilac. The structured bag contrasts against the flow of the dress, and ankle strap heels add more sophistication to the look. This bag is one of my favourites because it has both of my favourite colours- baby blue and baby pink {my entire room is baby blue and baby pink}, the boxy shape is so cute while not being too small, the chain detail in the center and the alternate juxtapositioning of the colours adds so much uniqueness, and the scarf bow on top is ahhhdorable. I always get compliments on this bag.


I wore pink tassel earrings and a flower ring to accessorize. The pink in the earrings matches the pink in the bag and breaks up the monotony of the gray. 



I wore light green eyeshadow to add more colour, and dark lipstick to keep with the seriousness of the look.



I can't wait to try this dress with different shoes and bags, and statement jewellery with colourful stones. It's a very versatile dress that can be worn to the office or on date night. I'll definitely be getting a lot of wear out of this one and those are the kind of dresses you want to have in your wardrobe.

You can read more about style, finding your own and building a wardrobe that's uniquely you, in my book, Loving Yourself In Style. Find the book here. It has an average rating of 4.4 stars on Goodreads and has fashion illustrations done by me throughout the book, for a fun read. It'll go on summer sale soon, so watch out for that!




What kind of dresses spark joy for you? Where do you think you are in your style journey? 
Leave me a comment below!

Until next time,

xoxo
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The Results of My Year of Not Complaining

The Results of My Year of Not Complaining



One of my resolutions for 2019 was to stop complaining. In the last few months of 2018, I read several books on self-help and spirituality that said one needs to stop complaining, as complaining blocks all the good energy and everything good that the Universe wants to send your way.

I knew about the “no complaining” concept from back when I was in college and used to read a lot of self-help books. {I was away from home and depressed and severely homesick. Self-help books saved my life.}  Almost all of the really good self-help and motivational books concurred on stopping complaining to change your life from a negative to a positive one.


I had read all of Dale Carnegie's books and one of his quotes always stuck- “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain- and most fools do”. Which is why I already wasn’t big on complaining and didn’t do it often. I had learned that complaining is futile, and it’s better to take action instead of complaining. And if its something you can’t change, there’s no point in complaining. But that’s just it. As I read those books last year I realized that I was complaining about the things I couldn’t change. So I decided that I’ll reduce complaining drastically until I stop doing it altogether. And when I say complaining, I mean all types of complaining. Complaining, criticizing, ranting endlessly about things I don’t like, whining, retelling a sob story for pity, and even complaining to myself in my head so I could revel in my misery.




Once I made my mind up, it was surprisingly easy to stop. Whenever I complained about irritating clients or an annoying situation that happened to me, I regretted it after. Then I started catching myself before I complained. Soon enough, I realized that I wasn’t complaining about the usual things - clients, my parents, how tired I am, how little sleep I got, the traffic, and so on. It’s astounding that when you stop complaining you realize how much you complain, and especially about small, insignificant things.

Finally, it came to a point where I noticed that my complaining reduced drastically. It’s only been half a year since I started doing this and I can already see so many positive changes in myself and my life because of this. I’m not saying I’ve stopped complaining altogether. I still do rant about a few things, but I’m conscious that I’m doing it, and either I try to cut the conversation short or change the subject or keep in mind that I must not complain about this the next time.

Here are a few things that happened as a result of me reducing complaining this year:

  • The things that bothered me- the ones I used to complain about- don’t bother me anymore. Those petty, insignificant things remain insignificant to me now.
  • I feel happier than before. Because I’m not focusing on the negative occurrences and talking about them, I automatically focus on the happy things and feel more of the positive emotions.
  • I have more energy now. It’s amazing how complaining saps your energy but you don’t even realize it.
  • I notice people who complain a lot and instinctively, I want to stay away from them.


  • I feel healthier. I don’t know what the co-relation between complaining and feeling healthier is, but I guess that because I’m not in the negative mindset that one gets in because of complaining and ranting, I’m healthier and don’t catch a cold or get headaches.
  • I realized that people around me complain less because I complain less. They instinctively realize I won’t indulge them when they want to rant and whine.
  • I’m more productive. Since I’m not spending time complaining, I’m spending it being useful and getting more done.
  • I have become more solution-oriented than problem-oriented. Complaining makes you focus on the problem again and again. When you don’t complain, you automatically think of how to solve the problem.



  • My overthinking has reduced to almost nothing. I used to be the Queen Of Overthinking. But now because I’m not complaining to others about my problems and thinking about what they said, the same thoughts don’t go round and round in my head. I have found that my thinking has become more linear and I arrive at a solution very easily, or that I decide to not let the problem affect me at all.
  • I’m so much more relaxed. Because the small things that used to bother me before don’t anymore, I have very little anxiety and stress, and I feel much more relaxed all the time.



  • I am so much more grateful for everything I have now. I have always been grateful for my wonderful life, but lately, because I’m not focusing on the bad things in my life, it has brought a sharp focus on everything incredible in my life and I find myself feeling more grateful than ever before. I also notice all the little good things and occurrences and feel immensely grateful for those.
  • Lastly, I find that good things are coming my way. Happy coincidences, good fortune, pleasant surprises are all happening constantly. I meet the most amazing and positive people, and I have amazing experiences. I’m sure that this is not only because I stopped complaining, but I’m also sure that that has contributed significantly to the Universe becoming more generous towards me. Because when you think about it, why would the Universe be generous and good to you when all you do is complain about how miserable your life is?


These are all of the things that happened in less than 6 months of reducing complaining. I still have a way to go in stopping complaining altogether, but I know I’ll get there soon because the results of this have been so incredibly positive and freeing.

Dress: Saji's Couture, Earrings, Watch: Parfois, Ring, Anklet: MGD Lifestyle Jewellery, Bag, Sunglasses: from India, Shoes: New Look.

If you think that this is something that you want to do, or that you want to experience the positivity and happiness that I am experiencing now because of this, then give it a try. Don’t complain for at least 3 months. It will be difficult at first if you love complaining, but it becomes easier and then it becomes a habit. However, you start to see changes in yourself and in your life almost immediately. Also, there’s no harm in not complaining. So why not give it a try? Let me know if you do! Leave me a comment below!
Until next time,

xoxo
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