Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Don't be forlorn, my pretty pretty pants, Spring is here to rescue you.

Top: Zara, Jacket: New Look, Pants & Necklace: Gifted, Shoes: Steve Madden.
Photos: Paul Gomes.

And the award for Most Comfortable Yet Beautiful Pants goes to... these purple floral harem ones!

Spring is finally here {ok, ok, we don't have spring in Bahrain but with the breeze and relatively cool temperatures, I like to think of this as Spring. Humor me.} and I'm celebrating with color. I celebrated winter with color too, and summer with color as well before that, but that's not the point. The point is that the temperatures are finally going up! YAY! Last week I finally, finally, put my winter clothes away! Hurray!

And as soon as it was warm enough, I got out these light-as-air pants to wear. They've been sitting in my closet all winter long, looking forlorn. I had sworn off harem pants some time ago {I think the last time I wore harem pants was in 2010} but a friend brought me these from Thailand as a gift and ohmigod I love them! They're super-comfortable and the floral pattern is soooo pretty!

I decided to keep the look semi-casual instead of bohemian which is usually the norm with pants such as these. The structured blazer is a great compliment to the flowiness of the pants. I love how the peach of the tank top pops and brightens up the dark navy blue and purple of the pants. A statement necklace with bright jewels and cheery peep-toe pumps completed the look.

More summery looks and brightness coming your way. Watch this space. xxx

Friday, 18 April 2014

Stop the abuse of self love

Top: H&M, Shorts: Zara, All jewelry: Gifted, Sunnies: Vintage, Handbag: Aldo
Shoes: Payless. Photos: Paul Gomes.

Self-love gets so much of a bad rap. People love to hate happy, self-confident people. The general thinking is that if you're happy with your body, your looks and your life and you’re not ashamed to show that, then you're arrogant, vain and narcissistic. It's the what-the-hell-is-wrong-with-you-you're-just-so-full-of-yourself-I'm-gonna-go-find-some-other-person-to-talk-to-who-hates-their-life-too syndrome.

If you love yourself, you shouldn't be looked down upon; you should be looked up to! Because finally, there's someone who is happy with their life and happy with how they are instead of complaining all the time. That's something that more people should imitate, not degrade.

Don't get me wrong. This isn't about being conceited and self-obsessed. It's about having clean, healthy, loving thoughts about yourself and your life. The difference between a self-loving person and a narcissist is that the narcissist will rub his perfect life in your face every chance he/she gets. {Please don’t be that person.}

This abuse of self-love needs to stop. More people need to think:
  • I am proud of what I have achieved so far in my life. 
  • Even though it's not perfect, I love my body.
  • I love the people who I spend most of my time with and they love me back.
  • My job may not be my dream career, but I'm happy at work.
  • I like where I live. It may not be amazing, but I have fun.
  • I love me. My thoughts, my personality, how I talk, how I walk, and all the little things that make me, me. 
We shouldn't be afraid to say those things out loud! There is no virtue in misery. And of course, if those above statements are not true, have the courage to take the steps to make them true.

Be proud of yourself, who you are, what you do, where you live and the people you choose to be around. And you’ll see that you’ll find more reasons to be happy.

Monday, 14 April 2014

Sometimes you have to punish a dress

Dress: Own design, Necklace: Vintage, Watch: Gifted, Shoes: New Look, Handbag: Debenhams. Photos: Anceeta Martis.

I love this dress.
No, wait. Let me put it better.
I LOVE this dress.
Nope. Let's try again.
I lurrrrrrrrrrrrrvvvvvve this dress!

Ok, now that we've got that cleared, we can.... talk about this dress a little more. Let's start with the cloth. My mom's had this cloth for aaaages now. She bought it when I was a child, in the hope that someday she'd make a dress for me because she loved the print and the spring-summery colors. Fast-forward to many years later and the material was still sitting in her ginormous materials cupboard. In one of my regular sessions of show-me-allllllll-the-materials-you-have-so-I-can-design-more-clothes-for-myself with my mom, finally I decided to use this cloth. So I designed a dress. And my mom stitched it.

And she didn't get it right. So she made some changes. Still not right. More changes. Still not right. Rinse, lather, repeat, for a few more months. STILL not right. At one point my mom and I got so fed up of the dress that we folded it and kept it inside a dark corner of a cupboard just to teach it a lesson. Then one day, out of the blue, my mom had a Eureka! moment, did a li'l something-something on the dress and voila! Perfection!

Now see, my mom is not a professional seamstress, nor am I a professional fashion designer. {Nor do I ever aspire to be. I'm a selfish scallywag who only enjoys designing for herself.} Which is why, through many trials and even more errors, this dress finally became wearable. Forget wearable it became magnifique. {Take that, Dior!}

Moral of the story- Try and try again, until you give up and then get hit by the solution.

So, for the dress' first outing, I accessorized it with a forest green vintage bead necklace, a baby pink thin belt at the waist and fuchsia summery sandals. A pulled-back ponytail finished the look. I spent the rest of the day admiring and talking about the dress... and the cloth and the print and the pastel colors, much to the annoyance of poor Anceeta who had the misfortune of having to keep me company that day. Ah, c'est la vie!

Friday, 11 April 2014

Thirteen, YES, ONLY thirteen basics to build your wardrobe.

I remember how it was when I started working after graduation. I was on a starter salary with hardly any money to buy clothes, yet I needed to look smart for the office and hip when I went out with friends. 

But how?

So I started by purchasing a few basics for my wardrobe, then mixing and matching them to create infinite outfits. Now you’re probably wondering what were these basics. I’ll get to that, in a minute.

I've read many posts and articles {and I’m sure you have, too} on basic items for your wardrobe. They go on to give you a list of 3,046 items you absolutely need in your wardrobe. “A tribal print silk dress…  A sequinned mini skirt with gold stripes… A white collarless blazer made from the hair of angels… You NEED these in your wardrobe!”

Heck, if I bought all those things with a starter salary I’d probably have to eat them too because who can afford food?! When you have enough money you can get all that and more too, but you certainly don’t need them to start building a wardrobe.

So here’s my list of absolute basics you need in your wardrobe. This is a list of the skinny on the skinny- the absolute basics of the basics. Only 13 items!

Here they are:

1. White button-down shirt

2. Solid colour top

3. Black pencil skirt

4. Black A line skirt

5. Dark wash skinny jeans

6. Black pants

7. Black blazer

8. Coloured cardigan

9. Black dress

10. Printed scarf

11. Black handbag

12. Nude heels

13. Black heels  

Now you'll notice that there’s a lot of black in there. That's because black is the most basic colour, it suits everyone, and goes with everything. {Not to mention it makes you look slimmer. Bonus!} If you hate heels, substitute them with ballet flats. 

I have chosen these items very carefully, keeping in mind that you should be able to use them in multiple ways- to work or for socializing, seguing  from day to night very easily. Using only these 13 items, you can create a myriad of outfits and looks going from formal, to semi-formal, to completely casual.

Here are a few examples:

 Remember, these are basics. Now that you have these in your wardrobe, you should find it easy to add more clothes, accessories and shoes which are more ‘you’. NOW you can buy the white collarless blazer made from the hair of angels, and wear it with your solid coloured top and dark wash jeans, and look frikkin’gorgeous.