The Next Step After I Stopped Complaining

In this post, I had spoken about how I’m not complaining anymore and how it has affected me and my life. A lot of you liked that post and told me you’ll give it a try as well, which is great! If you’ve done it and are wondering what to do next, here it is. 

After making a habit of not complaining, make a habit of being more grateful. One of the results of not complaining, in any case, is that you automatically feel more gratitude for everything. This happens because you're not seeing your life through the negative lens of complaining. 

If you increase feeling grateful even more, it makes your life so much more beautiful. It makes you feel this absurd sense of happiness all the time. The same way you make a habit of not complaining, you have to make a habit of feeling grateful. Here's how: 

  • You can maintain a gratitude journal. Every night before you sleep, write down 5 things you're grateful about that day. These things can be minute or massive, it doesn't matter. You can even be grateful about yourself and how you handled a situation that day. Don't overthink it. Just put it down. 
  • You can maintain a gratitude note in your phone and write down what you're grateful for as you go about your day. 
  • Or you can simply count your gratitude list in your head. You can do this in the middle of the day or before you sleep, or both. 

I do a mix of everything. I have a journal where I write down what I was grateful for that day before I sleep. When I'm too tired to write, I make a mental note of what I feel thankful about, in my head. 

The entire point is for you to remind yourself what you are grateful for so that you constantly recognize the amazing things in your life. After a while, it becomes a way of thinking. So much that even when you're really irritated or in a shitty mood, your next thought is what you are thankful for. That changes your mood or at the very least reduces your negative thoughts. 

Remember, you will find it very hard to be grateful if you complain all the time. When you complain you focus on all the bad things in your life. And if you focus on all the bad things, you can’t be grateful for the good things. So make sure you stop or reduce complaining and then start the habit of feeling gratitude. 

To set you off here's a very small list of what I'm grateful for right now:

  • Amazing friends and colleagues who know me so well that they gifted me this stunning gown from my favourite couturier, Saji's Couture on my birthday.

  • Beautiful places in Bahrain like the one in this shoot and having a blog that makes me discover such places for shoots.

  • Positive feedback on my blog posts.
  • Technology that helps me write from anywhere. I'm writing this on my phone while waiting in a beauty salon.

  • The opportunity to teach fitness classes in different gyms to wonderful participants who give their all in the class.

Those are just a few things I'm grateful for while writing this post, to give you an idea of what you can put in your list. Once you start writing or listing them in your head, you'll find you have so many!

Gown: Saji's Couture, Ring: Era, Clutch: from India, Earrings: Parfois, Shoes: New Look.

So make that gratitude list, however, whenever. Carry a journal around with you, write it in your phone, do it while meditating, go through it in your head. Whatever works for you. Do it until it becomes a habit and it brings you that absurd happiness. 

Until next time,

Shabana Feroze

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