Frills and Polka and Giving Yourself Permission

The only way I like polka dots is if they're really small. Because for me, that's when they look classy. This dress is made of a material with a tiiiiiny polka dot print. You can only notice the dots when you're up close. That's how tiny they are. But what I fell in love with instantly when I tried his dress on in Saji's Couture is the flow of it. The dress is so wide A-line it's almost a tent, and when Sajida of Saji's Couture asked me to try it on I didn't think it would look good. {Just goes to show you you should always TRY stuff on.}

But as soon as I wore it, I couldn't believe how amazing it looked, and felt. An experience I'm having repeatedly in Saji's Couture. It's always good to step out of your comfort zone and try new and different things. In personal style and in life. And it makes me so happy that I Sajida forces me to do that at Saji's Couture. 

The duck egg blue colour of the material is a complete winner for me, but as I mentioned, it was the flow of the dress that had me head over heels. It flows beautifully when you move because of the hi-low shape. The weight of the cloth and the frill hem in the back, makes it flare out when you walk. It's the perfect dress for when you want to make a dramatic entrance. 

Even when you stand still, the hem falls beautifully and the frill looks so pretty. I'm usually not a huge fan of frills because I've always felt they look too girly-sweet on me, but this frill I loved because it's on the hem and it adds so much to the dress. Without it, the dress would be too plain.

The neckline is simple and round, and the sleeves are short with a puff detail which makes them stick out. That adds volume at the top that balances out the volume of the frills at the bottom. The simple lace in navy blue on the neck and the frill accents the structure of the dress and is a pretty and defining detail. I love how the dress is monochromatic with the lighter blue background, darker blue polka dots and navy blue lace on top. Monochrome is such a great way to look elegant and put-together. I like doing it with separates and I love that this dress does it by itself.

Because the neckline is still clean and simple which gives me space to wear big earrings, I wore bold earrings in battered gold which catch the eye. 

 I wore a matching watch set in gold with flower patterns on my hands. The delicateness of the bracelets and watch match the lightness of the dress. Although I'm sure chunkier arm candy would also look good as the sleeves are short.

I added another colour with a small bag in mint green. I always love contrasting the shape of the outfit and the handbag, hence the boxy bag with this flowy dress. The mint of the bag pops nicely against the duck egg blue of the dress and the flower adds a nice touch. This is definitely one of my favourite bags that I picked up from Pune, India when I visited last year. It's so cute and small. I usually don't like small bags because I can't fit my organizer insert in them, but this one allows me to.

I wore chunky heeled pumps in black to finish the look. You have to have chunky shoes with such a big, billowy dress. Platform heels would also look great.

 It's such a lovely dress for the weekend when you want room for a big lunch. the comfort level of the dress is off-the-charts and it still manages to look very elegant. I'd definitely wear this to work as well or pair it with a short smart jacket to smarten it up.

Dress: Saji's Couture, Earrings, bag: from India, Watch set: Gifted, Shoes: Aldo. Photos: Paul Gomes

Giving yourself permission to be as beautiful as you want to be.

I've been realizing recently that I haven't been giving myself permission to be as much as I want to be. The commentary that runs in my head is, "That eyeshadow is too much. That top will look too grand. If I use those words, I'll sound too fake." and I realized what I was doing because I noticed a girlfriend doing it too. Too often we make ourselves lesser so other people can feel more comfortable. We know we could be happier, look better, be more successful, even earn more money, but we hold ourselves back because we think we're going to look like overachievers who are doing these things just to show off, and we're going to make the people around us uncomfortable.

But this has to stop. You can't keep checking yourself for the sake of others. You can't keep living life as if it's an apology. It's such a short life and you have to be WHO you are, unapologetically, and shine as bright as you want to. Anyone who thinks you're doing all this just to show off or that you are "too much" is definitely not the right person for you. 

So I put a stop to being too conscious of what others will think and I started doing what I wanted to. I started wearing more makeup and the clothes in my wardrobe that I wasn't wearing because I thought they're too ostentatious. A few weeks of doing this, I realised that most of what other people 'think' is just in my head. Because people didn't start behaving any different around me. If they did, it was that THEY got inspired to do the same. 

I realized that by looking at you walking, talking and living your life exactly how you want to, it gives others the courage to do the same. You set an example that you consider yourself worthy of shining as bright as possible without apology or any guilt or shame. Others will follow your example. And that would make such a wonderful world if people can just shed their fears of being all they want to be and lived boldly and looked as damn amazing as they wanted to.

Read more about being everything you want to be and looking the best while doing it, in my book, Loving Yourself In Style.

Until next time,

Shabana Feroze

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