Tuesday, 28 August 2012

Black lace and conversations

Lace top: Bershka, Vest and Skirt: Zara, Bracelet: Posh, Shoes: Dorothy Perkins,
Watch: Vintage. Photos: Arif Feroze.
Face-to-face conversations. Whether with old friends, old acquaintances or new coworkers. The topics can range from pure nonsense to deep philosophy, but just the experience of sitting down with someone else and sharing viewpoints and exploring different concepts is just sooooo nice. Although it's fast becoming rare. Everyone's rushed for time, everyone's got a smartphone with which you can chat to a million different people across the world. And I'm not denying that that's great, but today I had long convos with all three: an old friend, an old acquaintance and a new coworker and it left me smiling and filled with a warm fuzzy feeling  for an hour after.

And I guess that's my little delight for this Tuesday: great conversations!

P.S: Whoever came up with the expression 'warm fuzzy feeling'? Warm I get, but fuzzy? Maybe they had a bear as a pet? Or maybe they were just really hairy! Anyways, Happy Tuesday!

Monday, 27 August 2012

Floral dress and black stockings.

Dress: Miss Selfridge, Belt: from Rome, Shoes: New Look, Ring: Oasis. Photos: Arif Feroze.
Black sheer stockings worn with a dress just ups the elegance notches doesn't it? This floral dress has such gorgeous sleeves so I let them grab all the attention and kept all other accessories black or simple. Like the wrap-around belt, black flower ring and delicate earrings and necklace. These shiny black pumps complement the shine of the belt and a low asymmetrical bun completed the look. No, scratch that. The deep berry lipstick completes the look! {I'm completely in love with this new lipcolour!}

On another note, I was so gloriously busy today doing what I love doing and I thought to myself, being busy is such a boon. The best part about being completely consumed by what you're doing is that your mind doesn't wander into dark alleyways. I've had a lot of free time before when I was unemployed and more often than not I'd find myself dwelling on my insecurities and blowing up fears out of proportion. I've also found that I cherish my free time so much more now that I'm busy. Getting snatches of free time almost feels like a reward now but before it felt like a prison sentence. And being busy really makes your creative juices flow on how to be organized and still fit everything into one day. Anyhoo, those were my thoughts on being busy. {I'm sure I've made you sick of the word busy by now. Haha!}

Thursday, 23 August 2012

Shorts: Part I: Dressy.

Top: Zara, Shorts: Bershka, Shoes: New Look, Bangles: Various, Watch: Vintage.
 Photos: Oljeg Despotovic. 
Shorts. Easy-to-wear, comfortable and great for this heat. Hands-down one of my favourite pieces of clothing. This post is the first of a trilogy where I'll show you how shorts can be worn to look formal, semi-formal and casual. Today I'm showing you how to dress up your shorts so you can wear them to a party or a glam dinner date {with a guy or your girlfriends}. The key to making shorts look dressy is to pair them with formal items. I paired these simple black shorts with a violet satin blouse, bangles, a leather strap watch and elegant T-strap heels. The top and the shoes really make this outfit as the satin and the halter-neck of the top lend it sophistication while the T-strap heels complete the look. This outfit would work with pumps too. So this was part I. Part II and III coming soon. I sound like a movie director, don't I? I guess watching LOTR really had an effect on me. That Viggo Mortensen, swoon. Sorry, I digress. Ciao!

Tuesday, 21 August 2012

Guest post: Be yourself, unapologetically.

Today's guest post is by Sahaj Kohli, a psychology student living in Virginia, USA. I came across Sahaj and her amazing blog A Quarter Life Crisis when a post of hers was featured on Paulo Coelho's blog. I got in touch with her to compliment her on her work and we soon became fast friends even though we have the Atlantic Ocean between us. {Ah, the joys of the internet!}
I'm a huge fan of Sahaj's and the topics she writes about always resonate with me. So I was thrilled when she agreed to do a guest post for me. So without further ado, {drumroll please} ladies and gents, I present to you, Sahaj Kohli:

All my life I've been well behaved and accommodating. It's what I was taught growing up. It's appropriate. It’s polite.

It’s also sacrificial, confining and somewhat submissive. I find that I apologize for everything. I apologize for standing up for myself. I even apologize when someone else bumps into me when walking down the street.

It’s my most natural reflex to apologize. On one hand, I’m proud that I never hesitate to admit when I’m wrong and apologize. However, it becomes a problem when I apologize just to lessen a blow, end a fight, avoid confrontation, or break the silence.

Worst of them all is when I apologize and compromise my beliefs, my feelings, my rights and who I am in order to make someone else feel better.

I’m learning now (better late than never), to firmly stand up for myself, say what absolutely can’t go unsaid, give room for other people to own their mistakes, and finally accept parts of me that I should never apologize for.

Here’s what I’ve learned so far-

  • Don’t ever apologize for what you believe in or for standing up for what you believe in.
  • Don’t apologize for who or what you love.
  • Don’t apologize for pursuing your passions, whatever that may mean.
  • Don’t ever apologize for where you are in life and the pace you are moving at- be it faster or   slower than the “norm”.
  • Don’t apologize for your opinions, perspective or needs.

  • Do apologize for being rude, inconsiderate or careless.
  • Do apologize when you’re dishonest, late, or insensitive.
  • Apologize when you make mistakes, even if they are accidental.
  • Apologize for wasting someone else’s time.
  • Apologize for making someone else feel inferior.
  • Apologize for a poor choice of words even if the message was correct.

  
  • Don’t apologize for doing what’s right for you regardless of how that may make someone else feel but do acknowledge how unfortunate the circumstance is and be sensitive to how it affects someone else.
  • Don’t ever feel bad for how you feel but don’t ever use your feelings as an excuse.
  • Don’t ever be too stubborn to apologize.

 ‘Sorry’ is such a natural word in my vocabulary, I’ve almost forgot what it means and in the process have lost myself.

I have been doing an injustice to myself. By apologizing for everything I’ve never really stayed true to who I am, what I’m not, what I believe in, and what I deserve. And by not staying true to me, I’m doing an injustice to the world.

So remember- be accommodating and willing to adjust, but never compromise yourself and adjust a core part of what makes you you.

Be yourself, unapologetically,
S.K.



Sahaj Kohli is the founder and author of two blogs- A Quarter Life Crisis Blog and The Love Project. She's a storyteller, poet and lyricist. She fights for social change, believes in truth over everything else and is an active mental and emotional health advocate.
Follow Quarter Life Crisis blog on facebook HERE.
Follow The Love Project on facebook HERE.
Follow Sahaj on twitter HERE. 

Monday, 20 August 2012

Eid and Family

My parents, Feroze and Sughra.
My dad with both my brothers, Moayyed and Arif. I told him to squeeze his arms harder but when does my dad listen to me?
The three of us, i.e, how we behave in public...
...how we really are.
Us.
  Eid Mubarak!

Saturday, 18 August 2012

Tribal print maxi dress and a trip around the world.

Dress: Bershka, Bangles; Various, Earrings: Gifted. Photos: Anceeta Martis.
I can't believe how coordinated my outfit is today! Blue earrings and blue nails that match the blue at the bottom of the dress. Brown bangles and brown belt. And deep berry lippy that complements the browns. I thought of wearing blue lippy, but I don't think I'm ready for that yet. And of course, nude ballet flats. These go with anything. Although I did miss my skyscraper heels today. I could actually feel my feet protesting. But how cute is this tribal-print maxi dress from Bershka? This is just the second time I'm wearing it, shame on me!
This evening I spent some time with an old friend who's leaving Bahrain to travel all over the world for a year. He's going to be backpacking through Europe, looking at lions in Africa and enjoying the colours of the Far East. I wanna go with him and wish he'd pack me in his suitcase but I don't think my legs would fit. I love what's he's doing, taking a year off from a busy life to explore the world and himself. I've been to Italy by myself almost two years back and travelling alone is out of this world {pun intended}. I can't wait for my next solo trip. Until then, it's time to put my nose to the grindstone and work!

P.S: Eid Mubarak to those celebrating it, and those who aren't Happy Saturday!

Thursday, 16 August 2012

My feature in FMH Boutique magazine

FMH Boutique's online magazine carried a feature on me, shown below. Here's the complete magazine: FMH Boutique Magazine. {I'm on page 30}. 

The boutique is finally going to open it's doors this weekend and I'm excited! I'll be doing a post soon with their amazing collection, watch this space!

Wednesday, 15 August 2012

Silky, Tribal and Fierce!

 
Blouse & Skirt: Zara, Shoes: New Look, Earrings: Old. Photos: Anceeta Martis.
I've been falling head over 6" heels for silk clothes recently and this 100% Mulberry Silk blouse from Zara is my new amore. The way this baby feels against my skin is like water gliding. Tres luxurious, tres comfortable. I paired it with this OTT cute tribal print skirt, also from Zara. I love how the simplicity of the blouse complements the skirts print and material which is a thick cotton. And if you were wondering about pairing contrasting materials and textures, there's your proof. It totally works.
I finished off the look with my fierce black heels. So my dangly earrings match the sophistication of the blouse and my heels match the skirt. If someone were to cut me in half they'd be so impressed with my coordination. {Although I would distinctly prefer not to be cut in half.}

Happy Wednesday! xxx

Tuesday, 14 August 2012

Little Delights Tuesday


  • Men who always call you 'dear'. So bloody cute.
  • Lipstick shopping with Ancy.
  • Finding an amazing sales assistant while lippy shopping and being able to put in writing how good she was. I hope she gets promoted!
  • Music in the morning. 'Nuff said.
  • Answering the phone early morning at work and hearing the words "Hello beautiful lady. Will you marry me?" {He's an old acquaintance and already married, so relax, this is not me announcing I got engaged.}
  • 7 hours deep sleep at night. This is very rare for me because my brain refuses to shut off!
  • Being told that I have a 'unique perspective.'
  • My Combat classes. I lurrrrrve them and will never, evvvver get tired of loving them!
Happy Tuesday!

Monday, 13 August 2012

Brain in hibernation mode, please excuse.

 
Blouse: Jeanswest, Skirt: Mango, Belt: H&M, Earrings: Gifted, Bangles: TSKD, Shoes: Miss Selfridge. Photos: Anceeta Martis.
 When in doubt or in a hurry, a skirt, blouse and belt are the easiest things to put together. I matched all my accessories to my belt and shoes and kept them all black. My black Mary Janes add weight to the entire outfit and balance the heaviness of the tweed skirt. That's all I'm going to say today because I've had a manic Monday and my brain is hibernating. {I'm surprised I managed to churn out so many sentences!} Hope you had a good day!