I turned 30 this year. As I look back on the last ten years, it was a rollercoaster ride of emotions, epiphanies, changing jobs, changing countries, changing mindsets, and so much more. These are the lessons I learned from this last decade:
- People will come. People will go. Say goodbye with dignity. Say hello with hope.
- It's okay to feel lost. Unless you don't feel lost, you're not going to find yourself.
- If you open yourself up to love, it will come. And I don't just mean romantic love.
- Don't be afraid of change. Jobs, countries, boyfriends, feelings, and you, will change. If you stay in the same place with the same people, you're not growing.
- As long as you know you have everything within you to make the best of whatever life has to offer, you're unstoppable.
- When you're single, make the most out of being single. Enjoy every moment so when you're in a relationship you never regret the things you didn't do when you were single. Don't waste your single years pining for a partner.
- Taking care of your body and health will be the best investment you'll ever make.
- You don't have to justify your life choices to anyone.
- Confront your fears. Do a bit of soul-searching, find out what you're afraid of, and then actively confront it. You'll become unbelievably stronger.
- Get away from negativity. Whether it's a negative person or situation, do whatever you can to distance yourself from it.
- STOP comparing yourself to anyone else. Just. Stop.
- Desperation is a repellent. It drives away good people and opportunities.
- The more grateful you are for what you have, the more you get of it. This includes money.
- Forgive people, but don't forget what they did. Don't make the same mistake twice.
- Try new things. Meet new people, go to new places. Break out of your comfort zone. You might have a good experience, or a bad one. But for sure you'll learn something new and forge new paths for yourself.
- Do what makes YOU happy, even if society and your peers laugh at it.
- Stop self-sabotage. We often stand in our own path. Find out the ways you're destroying your own happiness and put an end to it.
- Never lose your child-like wonder. Lose the people that make you feel like you should grow up, but always keep that wonder.
- Be on a never-ending search for things you love doing, things that make you happy. Then explore those things and get lost in them.
- Make it a priority to love yourself. If I could drive home just one point from this list, it would be this.
These are the lessons life taught me so far. As I look back, I only feel happiness and gratitude for all the things I've done and seen. And excitement for things yet to come.
What about you? Would you add anything to this list?